I’m 16, Ran Off With My Boyfriend, But I Want to Go Home

By Martha Saenz

Dear Martha,

I’m 16 years old and 10 months ago I moved in with my 20 year old boyfriend. My parents are very angry for what I did, but they’ve accepted it because I first went to Las Vegas with him without their permission. They called the police and they detained him. My mom paid money to get him out of jail and now I’m on probation.

I write to you because I don’t know what to do. My mom is afraid because he threatened to take me with him to Mexico if he is deported, so she no longer speaks to me. Now I have doubts. I came to live with him to a very poor place and I don’t have the things I used to have in my house. I want to go back but I think everyone will make fun of me and will say that he left me. What should I do?

– I don’t know what to do

Dear I don’t know what to do,

I think you’re a very young person, but you’ve known the hard life of people who commit crimes. The first thing you need to do is to think how long you plan to fight with your parents until you come to accept their help.

They want the best for you and have demonstrated that fact by spending money for you to stay in the United States.

You need to regain your self esteem and decide what is best for you. What people think of you should not matter, only your future and what you’re doing with your life are important.

Talk to your parents and tell them the truth; tell them you want to go home. I’m sure they’ll take you back, as they have done things that show you they care and don’t want to lose you.

You are very young, you have your whole life ahead of you and can do many good things for your self.

Martha Sáenz is a life coach and hyponotherapist who lives in Los Angeles. If you have a question for Martha email her at marthalifecoach@gmail.com. Follow her on Twitter at @marthalifecoach.