Every Time I Try To Lose Weight, I Fail

Dear Martha:

Every time I try to lose weight at the beginning of the year , for  the first three or four months I manage, but then comes the rebound. Over the years this has caused me to gain many pounds more.

What I can do?, I want to give up, I do not want to try again. But being obese makes me very unhappy and lowers my self-esteem — what do I do?

— Unhappily Overweight

Dear Unhappily Overweight:

The first thing is not to give up and to seek ways to achieve your dream of being in your healthy weight.

The first thing you need to find out is why you are fat; many do not realize that, behind a problem like being overweight, there’s a secondary issue. Your weight may help you cover for fears with respect to someone or something, or help you hide feelings or situations that hurt you, or many other things.

Everyone has choices, sometimes we do not explore them and just give up. Seek professional medical help, I’m sure that will help you towards finding a solution. Don’t give up, everyone deserves to feel secure and confident.