Help! I’m In Love With My Married Boss

Dear Martha:

I’ve fallen in love with my boss even though he is notorious for being a womanizer.  I resisted for a long time but finally I gave in.  In order to avoid being hurt by him, it was supposed to be a relationship based only on sex.  I’ve tried to end it on several occasions but he always searches me out and I end up falling at his feet.

What can I do to be stronger and break off what I feel for him?  I don’t want to leave my job, either.

— The Other Woman

Dear Other Woman:

It appears that the hunter has fallen into her own trap.  You made the decision to use him only for sex and now it turns out that you are the one being used. And this is definitely not what they call love.

This is a problem in which you need to ask yourself several questions: What do you think of women who sleep with married men?  Do you plan on marrying someone single? Do you expect your boss to divorce his wife?  Are you going to base your happiness on the destruction of a marriage?

What’s most important here is that you examine your own values and beliefs, and where you want to go with your life.  Towards the craziness of drama and unhappiness or in search of your own tranquility?  The decision is in your hands.