Should I Break Off My Engagement?

Dear Martha,

I am writing because I am desperate, in a few months I will be getting married. What should be months of joy and excitement have become torture. I started my relationship very much in love and filled with illusion. Then I started feeling my boyfriend became possessive and jealous, I didn’t pay much attention to this since I believed that was what love felt like. Now I have been discovering many things about his past, when he mistreated and brought hurt and unhappiness to many. People around me have warned me about him, what the future holds for me, but I feel very pressured because our engagement has been announced and is now official. I feel breaking it off would be accepting I failed. I don’t know what to do.

Sincerely,

— Cold Feet

Dear Cold Feet,

If what you are going through now is causing you pain and disappointment, can you imagine what will happen when you get married? Why do you think this story will get any better? Would you rather face the truth now, or a painfull separation later? Within you lay all the answers, what society or anyone has to say about it must not be what you care about. What you should care about is yourself and your happiness. It is clear that this person wont make you happy. Face your reality, but most of all fight for a happy future. Married or not, you are worth a lot and deserve joy, peace and well being.