My Lover Is Cheating On Me, Do I Leave My Husband?

Dear Martha,

I love my husband and we have been married 15 years, he is a good person and loves my two children, we are stabile and people admire us. The problem is that I do not love him, I had been in a relationship with my boss for four years, and the whole thing has been very stormy.

For some time I hesitated to seek a divorce, but I did not do it. He did get a divorce, and now is free. Now he’s started to see other women, and when I get upset with him, he tells me I’m still a married woman with responsibilities. This drives me crazy and I’ve been so sick I even went to the hospital. What do I do? I honestly feel like I’m going to die.

— Married & In Love

Dear Married & In Love,

It seems that what you did to your husband is now being done to you. Even if you do divorce, it seems like what existed between you and your boss wasn’t serious. Before you make a decision either way, you need to get in touch with yourself and reflect on where your life is going.

No marriage stays in the honeymoon phase forever. There are romantic compromises each relationship experiences with different stages and with the promise that you can stay together. Do you have this type of relationship with either one of the men in your life?

Martha Sáenz is a life coach and hyponotherapist who lives in Los Angeles. If you have a question for Martha email her at marthalifecoach@gmail.com. Follow her on Twitter at @marthalifecoach

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